The Inevitable Change Within All of Us

Seasons change and we also go through many transitional phrases throughout our lives. Change: we fear it, get used to it, are all affected by it, and in the end overcome it. Essentially, we all grow and discover new things about ourselves every day of our lives. Everyone usually say that change is good, what if there is the one percent of us that fear change, especially when the closest individuals in our lives change into complete strangers in our lives. Change is an inevitable part of life, that sometimes we do not have control over. Nothing can stop the motions of life, no matter how hard you try allow life to pass you by. What if we fear the chaos associated with change? What I do not understand is that a change in life’s circumstances can completely dissolve our own perception to a completely different new person. This is what I fear the most, whether it getting a new job or even having children, people change. Some people become completely unrecognizable as they transform into a stranger in our lives. But why? Why allow self pride and money change who you are? I am sad to say that throughout our lives, we experience our family, friends, and even the people who we keep close to us change into someone they are not. We all come to terms with reality that there is absolutely nothing we can do to stop this change in someone. No matter how hard we hold on to a singular ray of hope a person can change back to the person they were before everything came about, what if there is nothing we can do. This is called denial and there is a certain point in our lives where denial overshadows our own lives. We allow ourselves to be captive by our past experiences with that person, but continuous disappointment dampens a strain in our relationships with one another . In the end our actions and experiences define us for who we are. Consequently, I lost a lot of close family and friends due to a significant change in their own lives, especially in the transition period of our lives. These transition periods include graduating, moving to another state, getting a new job, having a new boyfriend or girlfriend, getting married, having children, etc. Eventually, we lose contact to the very people we say that we are going to with them “forever” and in the end these people turn their back on us. People do not change overnight, but time and circumstances matures us either in a good or bad way. Its up to us to either accept the other person has changed or move on. “Change; we don’t like it, we fear it, but we can’t stop it from coming. We either adapt to change or we get left behind. And it hurts to grow, anybody who tells you it doesn’t is lying. But here’s the truth…the more things change, the more they stay the same. And sometimes, oh, sometimes change is good. Oh, sometimes, change is…everything.”-Meredith Grey, Grey’s Anatomy